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Geography Lessons

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Or: Things I Learned By Getting A Car

1. Brooklyn is a beach town.

Queens, too.  Oh, and Staten Island. Brighton Beach/Coney Island and the Rockaways are accessible by public transit, yes, but by car they are ~45 minutes and I don’t have to schlep the stuff for three people plus, to one degree or another, those actual people using only my body.  And then we are at the beach.  The beach, I tell you!

Since moving to New York ten years ago, I’ve made a handful of day trips to the beach.  Fewer than ten, probably.  In the first six days after getting the fuel pump replaced (ahem), we went four times.  We’re planning to go tomorrow.

Brooklyn Beach

2. Children like the beach better than overcrowded apartments.

Again, who knew?  Jackalope and the Bean do pretty well together, but, well, siblings gonna sibling.  Turns out putting them in smaller cages doesn’t help.  At the beach, well, I have two buckets and there’s more than enough sand for everybody.

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4. My apartment likes it better when we are at the beach.

We had to stay in last Tuesday morning.  There was marker all over the sofa before 9 am.

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Not the culprit, for the record.

3. Mamas like the beach better, too.

Partly this is because of the relative tranquility and because, duh, who doesn’t love the beach?  Some of it is harder to pin down.  Why should sand and salt and an environment where I really do need to be sure no one is drowning at any given moment make me feel so much more substantial, more tied to the world of the living?  I can’t tell you why, but at the beach I’m not thinking about whether this shortened breath, that mild headache is the beginning of the end.  It makes a pleasant change.

4. There is no Facebook at the beach.

Or next to none, anyway, as my phone battery is trifling and see above about real environmental dangers.

5. It turns out I spend too much time on Facebook.

I knew that, on one level, that “pay attention to your children/wife” level. What I did not realize is how much the click and click and click was increasing my anxiety. UGH. Facebook is a silly place, yes, but it’s also how I keep in touch with the world of adults and friends and complete sentences and big ideas. I just started a group for discussing anti-racist parenting, for instance. Also cat videos.

The things people dislike about Facebook — the way it provokes envy, for instance, or a sense that one isn’t living correctly — aren’t the problem. The problem is the very act of watching those notification numbers light up red, feeling compelled to check them, again and again and now again. I love it, and apparently it’s terrible for me. UGH.

Luckily, there is the beach to take my mind off it.

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4 thoughts on “Geography Lessons

  1. I love the beach too. Went to Zandvoort today with my little one. Just have to train her to not put sand in the food! For me the sound of the waves and the wind do the meditation for me, the letting go goes naturally there. Also, a great place for letting my grief be. Somehow the ocean is comforting, reassuring my grief will not drown me. (ehm, I hope this means something to you)
    Anyway, so glad to hear from you, and to hear the beach is good for you too.

  2. BEACH! I ‘m so happy you can go to the beach! (And ooo, maybe the vehicle will provide something similar during the winter–that would be rad.) As for #3, there’s some limited but interesting evidence that natural environments in general, and water specifically, increase well-being as measured in various ways. #5, gosh, there are so many reasons to avoid FB, but let me know if your anti-racist parenting group has any good insights. Also, did the badger in the smoking jacket really commit the crime? Because that dog with the bicycle looks might suspicious. But maybe that’s because I’m profiling due to my bagder-philia and dog bigotry.

  3. I am feeling all vicariously satisfied by this post. Great! Just what the doctor ordered, and apparently it’s really good for you to be at the seaside and you’ll all get fewer colds this winter. Yet Another Win.

    Also yes re the book of faces. I get put off by the huge audience: Whom am I talking to? So confusing. And just reading makes me anxious and dislocated, and FOMO-ish, but it’s addictive. Apparently it’s like a shot of endorphin every time we get a like. Oh dear. And yet, it’s useful. Oh I don’t know, I suppose the thing is to contain usage, or something? Yet another positive thing about the beach! General conclusion: BEACH is GOOD.

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