Bionic Mamas

you're not losing a vagina, you're gaining a son



My mother, the eldest of eight children, grew up in San Diego, where, by the time the youngest were born, the family lived in a house with a large garden. In that garden grew a pomegranate tree that had never borne fruit.

My mother was grown up and married when her youngest sister, Annie, decided she knew what the tree needed. Perhaps inspired by the nest eggs used to encourage the chickens to lay, Annie took a pomegranate ornament from the Christmas boxes and hung it from the tree. To show it what to do, she said. Her older sisters laughed indulgently, as I imagine it. Only Annie would think of something like that.

The next year, the tree bore fruit.

Perhaps I am a little like that tree myself: not 24 hours after Sugar gave me the necklace in the previous post, our daughter arrived.


Jackalope, born February 8, 2014, at 2:36 in the afternoon. Seven pounds, 13.6 ounces of healthy, beloved girl. Her first name is for my mother and her mother; her middle is for Sugar’s maternal grandmother.

I am tired and a bit beat up, but happy. I will tell you the whole story one of these days, but I feel I owe it to you not to leave you wondering about whether I’ll be in therapy for this one, too. And I won’t. Everyone was wonderful, everyone. There were times I was frightened or upset, but never because someone was frightening me or trying to upset me. College Friend was perfect. Dr. Joy, the OB I was most afraid of when coming to this practice, told me I was safe and held my feet in her lap while she stitched my tears.

And you all, you were wonderful, too. I mean it.

38 thoughts on “Jackalope

  1. Perfection! Congratulations!

  2. How wonderful! Congratulations, and welcome to little Jackalope!

  3. Congrats! πŸ™‚ She looks wonderful.

  4. Congratulations! So glad to hear everything went well, and your daughter is here. Rest when you can, and enjoy this miraculous arrival.

  5. A thousand congratulations! I’m so glad she’s here!

  6. Joy to the world and your family especially! So very happy for you. What a testament to motherly love. Best wishes to all.

  7. She’s gorgeous! Congratulation, moms!!

  8. oh, I am so so so happy for you – a general lurker but I’ve followed along for so long that I’m in tears reading this. I hope the next few days are just as lovely, and you are all able to enjoy being a family of 4 at home, soon. Congrats on a good delivery, and welcome to the world Jackalope – you certainly are cute.

  9. Well, hooray all around! congratulations!

  10. Such great news, I’ve been thinking about all of you!

  11. Her first name is the same as my sister’s! And she’s adorable. Collect the whole set of Bionic-Sugar babies.

  12. Congratulations! She is perfection. And while I saw news of her arrival earlier, elsewhere, I have been holding my breath hoping this birth experience was a better one. So glad it was. Hugs to you.

  13. perfect baby. perfect post.

  14. I am so delighted for you! A beautiful daughter, and a not-awful birth.

    I am strangely proud of Dr Joy for her comforting words and I am so so glad that it was not the experience you were dreading.

    Hugest congratulations. Now go snuggle that baby and don’t worry about us internet peoples. We will keep!

  15. I’m a lurker who was brought to tears here, and so I have to say, congratulations, and welcome, Jackalope! I’m so relieved to hear that this was a happy birth.

  16. She’s lovely. Congratulations.

  17. What a radiant girl! I’m so so happy for you! How marvelous!

  18. Congratulations! Oh she is absolute perfection. I am so very pleased to hear you had a positive experience this time. Xxx

  19. this brought a tear to my eye. I am so happy to hear there was kindness at your birth.
    she is lovely…congrats to you all!! ❀

  20. hooray! She is beautiful! Congrats on the labor — and delivering such a cutie.

  21. Congratulations on that gorgeous baby!

  22. I cried reading this. Congratulations, my dear. She is beautiful. I’m so glad it has all gone well. I hope it continues to be so.

  23. WAAAAAAAAH! She’s so lovely and I’m so, so happy and tearful! So happy she is safely here, and you are safely alive, and so in love with her beautiful serene face… I wish I could give her a big unsanitary kiss. Congratulations, mamas and brother! Magic. Jacklope, to me, is a store I went to back home. They sold stuff from Mexico, and for a kid, it as a total wonderland. I lusted after these little clay tea sets, totally crude, but tiny and brightly colored and amazing. Which is all just a long winded way of saying I’ve been imagining her as a girl (uh, not because only girls can play with tea sets, but because I was a girl, see?) and am glad not to have to make an adjustment.

    • Jackalope! It the best store, and so hard to describe! We must be from the same area as I loved it as a kid too. And now! My daughter has one of those little tea sets. πŸ™‚

  24. Oh she’s beautiful! Congratulations! I’m so glad to hear that the experience this time was so much better!

  25. She really is delectable. I can’t wait to meet her. Hope you all are settling in well together.

  26. Oh congrats! I’m a lurker, but I’m so very happy for you and Sugar and the bean and the new, precious, perfect Jackalope.

  27. Congratulations!! I’m so very very happy to hear this.
    And I love the pomegranate tree story.

  28. Lovely story. So delighted to hear all went well.

  29. So, so many congrats! She is absolutely gorgeous and I am thrilled for all of you.

  30. Perfect! Just perfect πŸ™‚

  31. Awesome job, Mama, I knew you’d be fine. xo

  32. Welcome little one! Good job Mama!

  33. Lovely! I keep coming back to look at her picture, mesmerised… I think that when you feed her, and the angle is just right, you can see her tiny eyelashes?
    I feel strangely connected because our daughter was also named for (after?) my mother and her grandmother, and her middle name for her fathers mother. oh melancholy.
    Good luck taking more of these beautiful pictures of this beginning life.

  34. so wonderful. The biggest of congratulations to you all!

  35. I know, no sleep etc. but just a tiny tiny picture, pllleaeaease?

  36. Very, VERY belated congratulations!

  37. BABY!!!!! LOVE!!!! Congratulations!! So happy for you! Sorry so belated!

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