(It’s taken me two days to write this, so the time references are all off. I know you don’t care, but For The Record.)
This morning, during the twenty minutes that the Bean deigned to sleep not on me (not that it isn’t adorable, but pretty soon I’m going to form adhesions to the Boppy and the couch) I wrote my GP a thank you note.
Sugar and I go to the same GP, and at times we have wondered whether her willingness to put us on or take us off of drugs we ask about means that we like her for the wrong reasons, because she does what we want rather than saying no. But really, why shouldn’t she? We don’t come to her with frivolous or dangerous requests, for one thing, but also, shouldn’t we have some say in our own healthcare? If I want to try a drug that won’t hurt and has a good chance of helping, maybe my desire (and pain) should be important enough that my doctor is willing to learn something new. My GP didn’t do anything Dr. Russian couldn’t have done. Even if Dr. Russian and her practice do not generally treat vasospasms (which, PS, they should — 20% of women in childbearing years have some version of them), she could have listened to me, read the journal articles and/or consulted with colleagues, and done something to help, instead of turfing me to another doctor (on my own dime, too), and blaming me for needing help. As a child of doctors, I’ve spent a lot of my life arguing with people who claim that all doctors are arrogant. Besides my own family members, I grew up surrounded by doctors, and most of them were more like my GP than not. Most of them were like my father, who works insane hours seeing patients with tricky diseases, dictates notes late into the night, goes into the hospital every weekend (which requires sacrifices from families, too — no camping trips or even full Christmas Days together), and still finds time to listen to his patients and their parents and think more about their needs than his ego. It pisses me off to no end (though I will end this post someday, promise) when a doctor acts like such a stereotype.
Enough ranting for the moment. The nifedipine is wonderful. The Bean is wonderful, too. He’s smiling more and spending a higher proportion of his waking hours not screaming. We take baths together every night, which I love — I haven’t had a good bath buddy in 25 years. This morning, I think he really saw one of our cats for the first time. I’m so happy to be out of pain and able to focus on having a good time with him and bombarding my friends and family with pictures of his every move. Since you’ve been so good as to suffer through this interminable post, allow me to bombard you: